7-UP's for Mentors: Show Up

7-UP’s for Mentors: Show Up


This is the first edition of a monthly note to keep you informed about the Brothers of Valor 1-on-1 mentoring ministry and to encourage you in your mentoring work. The first and most important message is to say “Thank You!” for your commitment to investing in the lives of other men. We at Brothers of Valor believe that if men grow in their walk with Christ, then women, children and families thrive. You have chosen to stand in the gap for another man and that will have an eternal impact.

Sharpen Your Sword: Each month, I plan to share one way to improve as a mentor. In each of the first seven monthly notes, I will share our “7-UP” imperatives for mentors.

“They won’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care”.

The first imperative is “Show-Up”. It may sound pretty basic, but just showing up and being consistently committed to your mentee can send a strong message. It’s possible that your mentee has had other men or father figures in his life that have abandoned or neglected him. This has a profound impact on his ability to trust God and others. Your consistent participation in his life can help rebuild that trust. Another reason to show up consistently is to build credibility with your mentee. If you miss appointments, your mentee will have a hard time believing that you care, and will thus care less about your input to his life. There is an old saying “They won’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care”. It may take time, but your consistent faithfulness in their life will eventually produce the trust and credibility necessary for you to be able to admonish, encourage and help your mentee.

1 Thessalonians 5:14-15 - “We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people.”

God bless you for your faithful service to Him,

- Tom Greenwood, Mentoring Director at Brothers of Valor